Imagine... You’re going to a party (post-COVID).
You buy a new outfit. You get your hair & makeup done. You’re excited for a night out.
You walk into the event feeling good. You take a few steps into the room & pause to look around.
8 people turn & look at you.
There is a woman who loves your outfit. She nods her approval.
You remind another woman of her best friend from college. She smiles at you.
One man thinks you look like his ex-wife, whom he detests. He snarls at you & turns around.
Another man thinks you’re hot. He raises his eyebrows & smiles at you.
A woman stares you up & down. She doesn’t like the look of you. She gives you a bitchy look.
One woman loves your hair.
Another woman hates your hair.
Your friend smiles & waves at you. She is happy to see you.
One you. 8 different thoughts about you.
What did you think when you saw this picture? Did you think I looked strong? Or, did you think I was showing off? Maybe you were inspired. Maybe you were turned off.
Most of us spend a lot of time trying to control what other people think of us. But, we can’t control what other people think.
8 different people will have 8 different thoughts about the same thing. 100 people may have 100 different thoughts. And, their thoughts are all about THEM. Not you.
Their thoughts are based on their beliefs, experiences & opinions. It really has nothing to do with you.
At first you may think this is a bad thing. You may still want to try to influence them. But, it’s kind of a relief when you realize you can’t control other people’s thoughts about you. It sets you free to just be yourself.